Raising Emotionally Healthy Twins
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Nanny in need of your suggestions . . .
I am a highly qualified nanny with a bachelor's degree and 10+ years of experience. I am blessed to have my first opportunity caring for multiples.
The twins are 18 months old, fraternal, beautiful girls. I have been caring for them for the last three months.
Since I haven't had much experience with multiples, I bought some literature. Fortunately, Dr. Friedman's book was one of my purchases.
I read the book twice- in a week; I loved it!
Here's the problem:
My boss says she doesn't have time to read- and though I lent her the book, she hasn't read it. She has hid away all singular toys- because the girls "deserve to have the same" and praises both girls in unison when one child does something good.
One child is teething while the other isn't. Still, their mother applies Oragel to EACH girls' gums even though it isn't necessary for the other child. When I asked why, she said she didn't want anyone to feel left out.
Though my boss has confessed she has had no prior experience with children, she has recently decided it's time to potty train- because she doen't like having to "change one while the other waits."
Incidents like these happen every day.
As a nanny, it is not my job to tell a parent how to parent; rather, it is to educate while ensuring the best interest of the child(ren).
Any sugguestions on how to encourage healthy behavior in a non-invasive, friendly way?
I love the family I work for, don't get me wrong, but I feel like it's turing out to be a bad fit. Should I get out when my contract expires?
Any advice would be MUCH appreciated.
The twins are 18 months old, fraternal, beautiful girls. I have been caring for them for the last three months.
Since I haven't had much experience with multiples, I bought some literature. Fortunately, Dr. Friedman's book was one of my purchases.
I read the book twice- in a week; I loved it!
Here's the problem:
My boss says she doesn't have time to read- and though I lent her the book, she hasn't read it. She has hid away all singular toys- because the girls "deserve to have the same" and praises both girls in unison when one child does something good.
One child is teething while the other isn't. Still, their mother applies Oragel to EACH girls' gums even though it isn't necessary for the other child. When I asked why, she said she didn't want anyone to feel left out.
Though my boss has confessed she has had no prior experience with children, she has recently decided it's time to potty train- because she doen't like having to "change one while the other waits."
Incidents like these happen every day.
As a nanny, it is not my job to tell a parent how to parent; rather, it is to educate while ensuring the best interest of the child(ren).
Any sugguestions on how to encourage healthy behavior in a non-invasive, friendly way?
I love the family I work for, don't get me wrong, but I feel like it's turing out to be a bad fit. Should I get out when my contract expires?
Any advice would be MUCH appreciated.
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Note:
"As a nanny, it is not my job to tell a parent how to parent; rather, it is to educate while ensuring the best interest of the child(ren)."
I was specifically employed to educate these parents based on my experience as well as provide care for their twins.
If not hired on these terms, a nanny's job is only to act as the best parent representative: as long as that representation coincides with the best interest of the child.
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